Relationship Coaching
Working (two on two) with Michael (see michaelbottcoaching.com) and me.
In many ways, our lives are defined by how much love we give and receive. Viktor Frankl (Man’s Search for Meaning) said that
‘Love is the ultimate and highest goal to which man can aspire. The salvation of man is in love and through love.’
When your relationship is working well, when communication is flowing freely and problems are resolved quickly and easily, when each of you is a stand for the other’s greatness … then life feels good and you’re much better able to deal with whatever life throws at you.
But it’s not always like that, is it!
In the words of Joni Mitchell:
All I really really want our love to do
is to bring out the best in me and in you too …
Ain’t that just the perfect description of what a good relationship is all about - bringing out the best in each other?
And don’t you find that in any relationship that is truly successful, nourishing and a joy to be involved in - you don’t just love (and like - let’s not forget how important simple liking is) the other person (significant other, friend, colleague, family member …) but you also like the person who you are when you’re with them?
So working on relationship issues, and taking your relationship to the next level, isn’t about ‘the other person’ so much as it’s about you, and taking responsibility (quite different from taking the blame) for who YOU are being in the relationship.
‘Wherever you are, you’re always there!’
Have you ever squeezed a lemon and had the juice run into little cracks in your hands that you didn’t even know were there - until they started stinging like hell?
So often a relationship can work like lemon juice, showing us where our hidden wounds lie. It’s no good blaming the lemon for causing your pain - the lemon is just doing what lemons do. It’s up to us to heal our own wounds.
Relationship coaching offers a way of standing outside the pain (and the upset, jealousy, resentment …) and finding a quick and safe route back to appreciating all the things that brought you together in the first place.
To quote Joni again:
I want to have fun, I want to shine like the sun
I want to be the one that you want to see
I want to knit you a sweater
want to write you a love letter
I want to make you feel better
I want to make you feel free …
Now how does that sound?
GET IN TOUCH IF YOU’D LIKE TO DISCUSS THIS FURTHER.